Failure is a Choice

Whenever I talk about chasing dreams, I get a lot of comments and emails about fear. Many inquire about how to get over it or simply to say that they can’t find a way around it. The fear of “what if” paralyzes us and instead of making the choice to move forward, we ultimately make the choice to stay where we are. We stay in our comfort zone, stuck. We’re safe from the chance of trying and failing.

I’ve learned that failure isn’t in falling but in choosing not to get back up.

Now that I see failure as a choice, it’s not something that controls me. I can choose if and when I give up. If a dream is really important to me, I persevere because the things that are really worth it are the ones I choose not to give up on. I might fall a lot along the way. I might not know how to make it all come together. I may feel overwhelmed or out of my element at times, but I know that’s part of the process. I remind myself that some of the biggest names in history have made their mark because of their perseverance. It’s not that they didn’t face adversity. It’s not that they didn’t have obstacles. Many of the ones I admire most are because they beat seemingly impossible odds. They overcame situations that I couldn’t even imagine.

Today I want to challenge you to reframe your idea of failure. Really define what it is so that it doesn’t limit or control you. I want to encourage you to use “what if” as a game. Instead of letting the “what-ifs” overwhelm you or keep you frozen in fear, imagine what could go right if you pursue it. What opportunities it would lead to. What lessons you could learn. What experience you could gain. What stories you’d have to tell one day. What memories you’d have to look back on. At the end of the day, you’ll never know for sure either way unless you try. So instead of looking back one day and wondering what could have been, come up with a plan to see for yourself.

I’ve found that when I chase my dreams, amazing things happen. Sometimes they come together just as I imagine. Sometimes things unfold in a completely unexpected way. Often times, one thing leads to another and things turn out even better than I dreamed they could! At the end of the day, I only fail after careful consideration that leads to that choice and I can make my peace with it. I’d rather chase my dreams and live my life on purpose than stay in my comfort zone wishing I’d dared to dream more.

Sending you lots of love and wishing you all that you need to reframe failure and chase your dreams!
-Niki Meadows
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6 Replies to “Failure is a Choice”

  1. wow, I really enjoyed this topic. This choice of topic is often thought about but not actually explained or expressed. who are the biggest names that you admire in history? I would like to know. In society, When someone has a dream or something they see themselves doing in life they feel as though it too far. It is as you stated in the title “Failure is a choice”. This is very common especially for younger individual and also adults. who may be economical hardship. Those problems alone can hinder someone. Most feel like giving up will lessen the stress or themselves and other who are involved. Overall, Great Topic!!! Keep it up!!!

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    1. I’m glad you enjoyed it. I think we all need to be filling ourselves up with more empowering brain food. Reading books, listening to podcasts, and just engaging in things that challenge us. Kids are great at figuring out other ways to do things. The problem we often has is we see ourselves as failures rather than the attempt itself as being unsuccessful. If we can remove ourselves, we can more accurately analyze the process, what went wrong, and how we can improve it going forward.

      There are a lot of people. Pretty much anyone you read about has overcome failure and adversity. I think that’s part of what makes them so memorable. From the Wright brothers to Einstein, Benjamin Franklin to Walt Disney, J.K. Rowling to Oprah. The list goes on.

      As a community and society, we need to build people up. We tend to talk ourselves down and find the reasons not to try and many times those around us have examples of why. I want to see what the world will look like when we all choose to chase our dreams despite the falls we’ll experience along the way.

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