Why Growth can be a Lonely Journey & that’s OK!

As I sat coloring with my daughter and listening to Maroon 5, I received the message to share with you this week. You see, my daughter only knows Maroon 5’s more recent tracks but I’m a long-time fan. The sound they have today is very different than the one they had before my daughter was born 9 years ago. As I listened to their older songs that made me fall in love with the group, I realized their progression is a lot like life. We all go through periods of growth which brings change. Sometimes the change is gradual with a long period of transition and others it’s abrupt.

This change doesn’t just impact us but those around us.

They see that we’re the same person yet different at the same time. Sometimes they don’t know how to process this change. I can only imagine that some Maroon 5 fans stopped listening to them as their sound evolved. They liked the old sound that was familiar and they fell in love with. They might not have been willing to stand by them through that transition period and definitely don’t embrace the group now. Some may have come back around with the recent hits they’ve heard and rekindled their connection. Others might not have known about Maroon 5’s older sound and love them as they are now.

The thing is, we can’t inhibit our own growth because of how others react to it. Growth is a part of life, from our height to our age and size. The reality is that while we cap out at a certain height, there is always a process of inner growth. Even nature is in a constant state of growth and change. While seasons change they are cycles which support the growth in the world around us. Growth is the most natural form of change which always facilitates change with a transition. There are those who actively seek to support that growth and embrace the elements and seasons that come with it. There are others who are oblivious or resistant and don’t embrace their own growth or that of others. Whatever the case, you are on your own journey.

It’s important that you continue to grow at the rate that you’re meant to. Remember that just like Maroon 5, you’re on a journey of evolution. There will be people who are used to the old you and don’t like the change they see even if it’s for the better. There will be those who are open to the transition and change that lies ahead. Some won’t know the old you and love you as you are at this moment. It can be a lonely process at times but that’s ok! Some people are in your life for a track, others for an album, and possibly fewer still for your entire lifelong career. Hold onto the good times but not so tightly that you can’t move forward to continue your journey. There are more albums to make and people may or may not be there to accompany you during that process. You can’t put those future albums on hold because of those who won’t buy them. There will always be someone to listen to the tracks, even if sometimes the only person is you.

So don’t dwell on the sorrow of those who have left you along the way. Don’t deprive the world of the hits that you have yet to create. Keep experimenting with your sound and being courageous enough to share it! Keep finding ways to share your talent, gifts, and message with the world. Contribute in the greatest way possible! You’ll always attract those who are meant to be in your life and support or enjoy the journey.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. Let me know in the comments if this is something you needed to hear. I’d love to know what point of the journey you’re on right now. Are you in the early years of Maroon 5, a transition phase, or establishing a new sound? Feel free to share in the comments!

I’m sending you lots of love and wishing you all that you need to support you on your journey of growth and transition!

Niki Meadows (1)

Soulful Sunday (1)

If you’re struggling with your journey of growth and tend to have a negative train of thought or often compare yourself to others, I know what that’s like. In fact, I fought with that daily battle for the majority of my life. It took a breakdown for me to have a renewed sense of life and discover ways to pursue living and not just surviving life. When I climbed out of rock bottom, I promised myself I wouldn’t forget about the people who were still there. Years later, I evaluated what I did to climb out and was able to identify the key strategies I incorporated into my life. I share how I was able to train my brain and reroute my default negative train of thought so that you can implement the practices into your life. So for anyone looking for support on their climb out of the pit of despair, I’m tossing a line for you to grab.

May this support you in finding your way out!



18 Replies to “Why Growth can be a Lonely Journey & that’s OK!”

    1. Thank you! I was so excited to share this! It’s been scheduled for a couple of days and I couldn’t wait for it to reach those who needed to see growth in this way. The more we lean into self-love and listen to our hearts (and gut) the less easily swayed we are. It’s taken me a while to learn but I’m firmly rooted in my inner wisdom. Thanks for taking the time to share ❤

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    1. Yes!! Change has such a negative connotation but that’s the birthplace of amazing things!!! Don’t just be open to it, be determined to initiate it! When change happens it can be extremely difficult to adjust to. When we make change happen…let me tell you!! That’s where the magic is!! Glad you enjoyed this post. Thanks for taking the time to share ❤

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  1. Such an inspirational post, Niki. I couldn’t agree more about the benefits of change, and the need to continue growing as human beings. And like you say, some will stay with us on our journey, and some will inevitably leave us somewhere along the way. But regardless, we have to keep moving forward. Thank you for sharing your words of wisdom. 🙂

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  2. I absolutely LOVED the Maroon 5 metaphor. I personally have been in love with them since Songs About Jane came out over 10 years ago and, just like the band, I’ve become very different than i was and certainly have lost people along the way. I’m closer to those who’ve stayed by my side as a result which is a blessing in itself. I’m all about personal and professional growth and a musician is the perfect canvas to paint a picture of how growth is important but also challenging. Thanks for sharing and for reminding everyone that the journey is a long and lonely one but that the results are always found along the way, not at the end and are worth it

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    1. Thank you, Adam! So glad a fellow old-school Maroon 5 lover enjoyed this post. It’s so important to recognize it’s part of the journey otherwise we can get discouraged and hung up for too long along the way. Thank you so much for taking the time to share about your experience. To many more albums 😉

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