Courage Over Perfection

Oh how I’ve missed you guys! I’ve given myself permission to enjoy the summer and make memories with my girls. While I’ve been flooded with ideas, I’ve been jotting them down because between blogging and building my business I could be glued to my computer all day (and night). So in the spirit of self-kindness, I’ve held a reduced posting schedule over the summer. We only have a couple of weeks left before we start school up and things will be back to normal around here.

In the meantime, I wanted to share something with you. I published this post on Facebook today and hadn’t realized that the corrected version hadn’t saved.

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I changed the error and just assumed it downloaded with the correction. I published the post and didn’t give it a second look as I moved onto the next task on my list. When I saw that someone called out the typo in a comment, I couldn’t help but laugh! Of course, I wanted to fix it but in order to do so, I’d have to delete the post and publish it again. Someone had taken their time to open up and share their experience in a comment and I didn’t want to throw away the conversation because of an error. So I left it up.

The thing is, so many times we feel like we have to be perfect before we can put ourselves out there. Whether you run your own business like I do or you are seeking a promotion, raise, or chasing a dream. I just wanted to remind you that if you wait until you’re perfect, life will pass you by. We aren’t perfect beings and that’s ok. I think it’s more important to be willing, available, and open to making mistakes and learning from them. That’s how we grow and progress.

As amazing as it would probably feel to be perfect, it’s an unattainable illusion I stopped chasing a while ago. It’s taken a lot of pressure off, helped me learn to embrace myself, and given me a lot of inner peace. I don’t hold myself up to unrealistic expectations. I don’t think that I’m beyond error. I’ve learned that there’s a lesson in everything if you’re willing to look for it. I’ve also experienced the courage that is built by putting yourself out there just as you are.

May this find whoever needed to hear this today. Sending you all lots of love and wishing you all that you need to be courageous instead of chase perfection.

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24 Replies to “Courage Over Perfection”

  1. I love this thought. So many times I’ve created a piece to be published and my finger had hired over the publish button for a moment.
    Sometimes I’ve got it wrong but more often than not I think f**k it and click send.
    Means I’ve made some right foul ups lol
    Par for the course I think! It’s good to see your Niki ☺️

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    1. Good for you Simon! It’s so easy to give into that moment of self-doubt! I love that more times than not it all works out. I’m willing to bet there’s always someone that it speaks to even if they don’t let you know. At the end of the day, you’ll never know what works unless you try it and if it doesn’t at least you know for sure. I agree, it’s part of the process! Nice to see you too, Simon! ❤

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      1. Well the thing is I’ve know a few perfectionists offer the years and I find they’re normally unhappy and never satisfied. So for me, yeah I’ll make mistakes but I’m never going to climb into the pit of perfection. Lol
        I’ve got catching up to do in the book club and stuff but I hope to bed catching up with you more soon. Enjoy the rest of your summer! ☺️

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      2. From my experience that was the case for me personally. Glad that you’ve been able to learn from those around you. Take it at your own pace, you’ll catch up when you can. Thanks!

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    1. Awww it’s so nice to hear from you, Miriam ❤ I agree! I've also come to find out that no one really expects you to be perfect either. People are generally so understanding and sympathetic. It was my own voice driving me in fear of what others might say. I hope all is well for you. Sending you lots of love right back! ❤ ❤ ❤

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      1. Thanks Niki. I think we’re the biggest critics and harsher on ourselves than anyone else. Things are well here, just a bit of a cold but otherwise life ticks on. Keep smiling lovely lady ❤️🙂

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  2. Loving this!! I’ve gone through some big life changes recently. When I finally stopped trying to be perfect I started living for myself again. Loving yourself through it all is what matters.

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    1. Yesss!!! Perfectionism took over so many aspects of my life for many years. It’s been about 3 years that I’ve been a reformed perfectionist and I never knew how enjoyable life could be! I have ambitions, chase dreams, and allow myself to make mistakes and take risks. Freedom! ❤ I'm so glad you've experienced it for yourself, Ellen!

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  3. This post is definitely hits home… I’ve struggled with perfectionism all of my life and the pressure I put on myself is enormous! I call myself a recovering perfectionist, some days are easier than others but it continues to be a struggle for me. I try to take steps daily to be more courageous and less “perfect” – I’m progressing a little slower than I would like but I believe for now it’s the little steps that count. Thanks for sharing Niki.

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    1. Don’t let that habit of perfectionism creep in. Take it one choice at a time each day. You know one of my favorite sayings is practice makes progress! It takes time to break a lifelong habit but being aware of it, being encouraging of yourself, and doing the best you can will help create a new habit. ❤

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  4. I have been both a perfectionist and procrastinator for the majority of my life. It took me years to even start blogging. My excuse was always – I will do this when this happens or I am not ready, I need to do this first. Eventually I gave up my excuses and the risks have really paid off.
    I think there is something perfect in your spelling mistake, it shows a natural quality that people will be able to relate too. Trying to do everything perfect will leave you forever dissatisfied. Thank you for such a thoughtful and inspirational post. 🙂

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    1. Isn’t that a funny combination! I was both for my whole life up until a few years ago. Between that and depression I cracked and had to take a hard look at myself if I was going to make it to 30.

      I always thought I’d never feel good enough if I wasn’t a perfectionist but it wasn’t until I overcame it that I realized it was contributing to my unhappiness.

      I’m so glad to hear that you moved forward and that it’s paid off for you! That builds courage for the next time you need it and experience to draw on showing that things can turn out better than you plan.

      I agree! It’s still on my page and it will pop up next year as a memory I can look back on and remember to just keep showing up as I am.

      Thank you for sharing, it’s so nice to meet you ❤

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      1. Of course! I love engaging with those who have taken the time to engage with me.

        I agree. In my personal experience, it was a great source of unhappiness! Glad I learned that lesson so I can cultivate happiness and teach others to do the same for themselves!

        Hope to see you around, have a great day! ❤

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