Self-Compassion Started with Intention

My personal reflection post of week 2 of The Kindness Challenge.

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As I focused on this week’s prompt of self-compassion, I realized how the inner voice has changed. I’ve been on an intense journey of self-love over the past four years. Prior to that, the voice in my head was incredibly judgmental, harsh, critical to the point of being merciless. This week I noticed how kind I am with myself and that my default is set to self-compassion. The perfectionist in me used to think of self-compassion as an excuse to not want to move forward, a lack of determination, and settling. As a reformed perfectionist, I understand the necessity of self-compassion. It’s what gives me endurance, strength, and fuel. It’s not a weakness or crutch, it’s not about being complacent and not wanting to grow.

It’s a choice I make each day with the actions I take and words I fill myself with. It’s seeing a weakness and finding out how to strengthen it. It’s seeing a shortcoming and learning to develop it. It’s seeing an imperfection and knowing it doesn’t mean I’m broken. It’s seeing a fault and accepting responsibility. It’s seeing a problem and finding a healthy solution. It’s knowing that I can’t do everything right the first time, and that’s ok. It’s extending myself kindness and love instead of punishment and suffering. It started with setting an intention and has become my default by consistently practicing self-compassion. One step at a time, one day after the next.

For those of you who struggle with that inner voice, I know that struggle and I want to encourage you to continue down the path of healing that supports you to take it a step forward every day.

The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.

-Lao Tzu

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Please remember this is my personal reflection for week 2 of The Kindness Challenge. If you have yet to post your reflection, please do so and leave your link in the comments of this post

28 thoughts on “Self-Compassion Started with Intention

  1. I was just thinking that when I internally feel self-compassion I’m comforted by those thoughts. It’s when I verbalize them to others that I sometimes feel the person hearing me thinks I’m making excuses for myself. So, once again, I’m allowing what others think to effect me. 😉 Thanks for this thoughtful post!
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    1. I have a feeling that this week’s focus will support you when it comes to verbalizing those thoughts. I also encourage you to ponder why you think they might look at it as an excuse. If they express it, that’s one thing but if you’re assuming they do, that’s a path you might be interested in exploring. Oh the roads that open with this challenge 🙂

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    1. It’s interesting to host and participate in the challenge and experience it from different perspectives. Thank you, I’m glad you enjoyed it ❤

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  2. Sadly, self-compassion is often mistaken as a sign or weakness–not by us, but by others. That’s why so many of us keep our feelings hidden inside.

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    1. I’m sorry you’re going through a tough time. I know sometimes it can be overwhelming to cope with. I want to encourage you to reach out to those who offer a great source of support to you or a resource that helps to reframe things.

      I also want to invite you to check out Julia’s post. She shares an interesting perspective on her experience with this week’s prompt. I encourage you to stop by open to what the post might spark or inspire within you.

      https://unbreakablejoy.wordpress.com/2017/05/19/ill-get-you-my-pretty-not-kindness-challenge-week-2/

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  3. I love how you emphasise giving yourself time – Rome wasn’t built in a day! The way you say you’ve come so far in your journey is inspiring, thank you for the beautiful post ❤

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    1. I battled with depression for over 15 years. I didn’t anticipate changing overnight. It’s kind of like weightloss if you lose a lot of weight in a short period of time, you’re more likely to gain it back. That’s how I felt about my mental health and self-acceptance. If I forced it, I was probably taking some shortcuts and would end up having to do things again. It took a while but not nearly as long as the struggle itself. Sending you lots of love Nashra ❤

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  4. I feel that my boyfriend is slowly adjusting to my journey into self love. Its interesting though. At times it worries me that he wont want to stay, and others I know its a good adjustment. Thank you for this… it hits home 💕

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    1. Yeah, there’s adjustments and a transition period. As your self love grows, the relationship with yourself changes. Things that were once normal and acceptable no longer are. Boundaries change as do standards. I’ve been on the journey for four years and my husband and I still experience the shifts. Things will settle into the places they’re supposed to. Thanks for sharing your experience. 💖

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