Attention Kindness Challenge participants!
In this post, you’ll find:
- this week’s theme prompt & exercise
- video about the difference between self-ish and self-full
- the reflection post prompt questions
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Don’t forget to bookmark this post so you can link your reflection post here once you write it at the end of the week.
Week 2 Theme | Self-Compassion
Having compassion for others entails sympathy or empathy for their discomfort and suffering. This week we’re going to work on showing ourselves compassion. For some of us that might mean not being so hard on ourselves, not holding ourselves up to standards of perfection, or easing up on the negative self-talk. Many struggle with being their own worst critic, this week we are going to strive to be warm, understanding, and encouraging with ourselves.
If compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.
The purpose of the first three weeks of this challenge is to evaluate the kindness we show ourselves. I know this might be uncomfortable for some, but if we make the effort to really dig into these aspects of kindness, we’ll reap the benefits of cultivating a better relationship with ourselves. I’ve shared this video with a couple of participants but I think this is something anyone can benefit from. If you struggle with feelings of guilt or are conflicted with the idea of making yourself a priority, I highly recommend you watch this message.
This week, pay attention to the way you treat yourself and the things you say to yourself both spoken and unspoken. Write down the words you say, the phrases that cross your mind, the way you react, and how you respond to yourself. Notice what your default reaction is when you struggle, make a mistake, or fall short. Notice what areas in life your default isn’t set to self-compassion. Find ways to be more compassionate with yourself. How would you treat a loved one in that situation? How can you bring last week’s focus of self-love into this situation? Be gentle with yourself this week. That means not being hard on yourself and releasing judgment attached to the things you’ll become more aware of as you pay attention to them this week. The first step to extending self-compassion is realizing where there’s room for it. The next step is to practice applying it.
If this is something you want to dig a little deeper into, you might want to give this exercise a try. We all have a tape that plays in our heads, but at some point, the voice on that tape came from somewhere outside of us. I want to gently encourage you to identify the inner voice that challenges you the most. How far back does this tape go? Where did that voice originate from? Is that tape helpful? At some point, that voice stops coming from someone else and continues to speak as our own inner voice. How much of what you say today is attributed to that voice? Are you willing to get rid of that old tape? I encourage you to record yourself saying 10 things about yourself that support and encourage you specifically around the topic of that old tape. If you struggle with this, sometimes the best way to move forward is by listing the opposite of what the old tape says. Listen to the recording you made before you go to bed at night and when you wake up in the morning.
If you can think of a different exercise to incorporate, feel free to do so.
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Reflection Prompt | You pick the day to post!
At the end of this week, post your reflection. Write about what your experience was like. What did you struggle with? What surprised you? What did you learn? What will you stop doing? What will you work on? What will you start doing? Feel free to share as much as you’re comfortable with. You’d be surprised by how many of your readers will be able to relate to how you feel and who you might encourage.
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Be sure to comment with the link to your reflection post once you publish it or link back if you’re a WordPress blogger so your post will appear in the comments.