Next Step, Opportunities, Perfectionism

I’m doing another combination post for the A-Z Challenge. I got a few posts up yesterday and scheduled out some more for this week but wasn’t able to get yesterday’s letter up. While I’m at it, I’m adding tomorrow’s letter in this post too. It works out well because these letters go together like peanut butter and jelly. 

As I began to embrace myself for the perfectly imperfect person I was, I stopped focusing on the “what if’s” in life. I found the best way to snuff out anxiety was by letting go of expectations. This isn’t to say that I didn’t have dreams, goals, or aspirations just that I wasn’t fixed on how they came about and didn’t fret over things that may or may not happen. I started to be more open minded which opened the faucet to my creativity. I stopped planning things out which only led to getting frustrated because things rarely go exactly according to every step of the plan anyway. I started setting destinations along my journey but I was open to the path that got me there.

Another thing that helped was that I recognized my habit of being a perfectionist was unhealthy. It’s funny because I used to think that was one of my biggest strengths; I’d even list that as a strength and a weakness in interviews and employers loved it. I realized that perfectionism put unnecessary pressure on myself and others. I now consider myself a reformed perfectionist. I never thought I’d say this, but life is so much easier when you let go of preconceived notions and expectations. Things have a way of working out better than I would have planned them in most cases. I have more time to come up with destinations to add to my journey and I don’t have anxiety.

The beautiful thing about this is it turns my journey into an adventure. While I have an idea of where I want to go, not knowing exactly how to get there makes me curious and opens my eyes to opportunities and possibilities I might not have considered otherwise. I’m a lot more carefree and have more fun than I used to. I’m not so uptight, I take myself less seriously, and I’ve found better ways to prioritize. The journey is a lot more fun and I get to enjoy it just as much as the destination itself.

What are your thoughts on this post? Can you relate? I’d love to hear, share in the comments ❤

This is my entry for the A-Z Challenge I’m participating in. If you haven’t heard of it, it’s a challenge where blogger’s post their way through the alphabet a letter each day through the month of April. For more details, visit the A-Z Challenge website or their WordPress site.

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21 Replies to “Next Step, Opportunities, Perfectionism”

  1. I think we all need to realize we’re fallible, and that others are fallible too. Once we reach that conclusion, I think generally we’re all going to be happier.


    1. In a world full of inaccurate portrayals of perfection, I think many forget that none of us are perfect and striving for it is unrealistic. I think it’s healthier to strive for authenticity. Thanks for taking the time to comment Geraint!

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    1. I used to wear perfectionist like a badge. Now I dodge it like a bullet! Life is so much more interesting and adventurous without seeking perfection 💖


  2. I am working on the idea of going with the flow, removed perfectionism and competitive idea long time back. I believe in competing with self and not the world but in a positive way. Like you said, too much burden. Also, expectations tend to hurt us the most.

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  3. I totally relate to this post – I consider myself a recovering perfectionist. Some days it is harder than others not to try to be perfect – you are right, it is such a burden and so stressful. I too used to wear it as a badge of honor but now I am trying to remove that badge and replace it with a more carefree attitude. I love that you say you have a destination but don’t care so much how you get there… I definitely need to learn how to let go of every little detail and just go with the flow. Thank you for sharing.

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