The Stage They’re In

As  a kid, I was always in a rush to grow up. Now that I’m grown up I’m all about enjoying the moment. Days rush by blurring into months and before you know it another year has gone by. It seems like just yesterday I was kissing my daughter’s little chubby dimpled hands and now they’re long slender 8-year-old hands. The first time around I was wishing each stage would arrive more quickly. I wished she could crawl, walk, and talk without really enjoying the stage she was in. This time around I had 6 years of experience under my belt and I knew how quickly each stage went by. I was more mindful to live in the moment and enjoy each stage because I knew it was only a matter of time before it passed.

Today I’d like to know what’s your favorite part about the stage each of your kids is in?

I encourage you to live in the moment, don’t rush it or wish it away. Take mental notes, make time to play, get on their level, and let them show you the world through their eyes. Whatever stage they’re in will be gone before you know it. So even though you might be in a funny phase or going through a rough time, remember this is the last day they’ll be as young as they are. Let them give you sticky kisses, let them hug you with dirty hands, let them fall asleep in your arms because one day you’ll look back and treasure those moments. ❤


Feel free to share your favorite thing about the stage your kids are in below in the comments! 

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15 thoughts on “The Stage They’re In

    1. Absolutely! I’m very into mindfulness which is all about living in the moment and really paying attention and enjoying the moment you’re in. It’s a great way to go through life. Each moment is a future memory but we have to experience it for the memory to invoke a feeling ❤ Happy Monday Kristen!

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  1. I try and enjoy every moment, but when my son can’t stay in school becasue of behaviour issues that we struggle with and daughter that frequently tell me to f**k off it gets hard.
    That’s why when magical moments come I treasure them all the more 🙂
    How are you Niki… things good?

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  2. It’s funny; I thought that because we homeschool, I wouldn’t miss anything. But, in those early years, I was so concerned about being a “good mom” and having “good kids”by others’ standards that I was a tyrant who missed a lot in the process. They were 7 and 4 when I changed, and I was sure I wouldn’t miss anything then, being mindful and present.

    And yet, they’ll wake up with a deeper voice, a leaner face, closer to looking me in the eyes, able to do things they couldn’t yesterday, and it’s a kind of magic….

    And just like that, I have a 15 year old son who towers over me and is edging out his father, and a blossoming girl almost halfway between her twelfth and thirteenth birthday.

    Magic, I tell you.

    I’ve loved every stage of the way.

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    1. The days turn into years before we know it! We’ve talked at length about this, I’m so glad that we were able to see the error of our ways and correct them while the kids were young. While it doesn’t erase it, I can only imagine that it softens the blow and that the years since helped heal the past. There’s nothing better than being present in the moment and enjoying the stage they’re in. Just last night we played a game of memory before bedtime. Playing is the language of children and there’s no better way to bond than through their language. It doesn’t hurt that it also helps keep us young at heart. Continue to be present, embrace the moment, and enjoy the stages they go through ❤

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      1. Agreed on the play thing, although these days, it’s more likely to be Exploding Kittens!

        Fortunately, the kids don’t remember much of those days, anymore; we’ve put many, many good and happy days between.

        And I can attest that this way is so much better, and creates older kids who are (almost always) a pleasure to live with – and when they aren’t, or I’m not, we can talk it out, work it through…make it, if not perfect, then better.

        At ages where many people are finding it hard to control kids well on the way to adulthood, I’m happily reaping the benefits of being their partner – and it’s a good thing.

        My 15 year old? Many months before his next birthday, he’s topped six feet tall, and is built like a linebacker. I am not a small woman, but there’s no way I could force him these days!

        But he’s kind and generous and thoughtful and sweet. He’s sometimes a giant goofy kid and sometimes almost a man.

        Right now, they’re in the kitchen, practicing dancing and laughing together. =)

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      2. It’s interesting you say that. I don’t want to control my kids at any age. I’d much rather them be able to reason with me, discuss their point of view, see where I’m coming from, and have a conversation with thoughts and feelings being communicated. I like that you consider yourself their partner. I always tell my husband I’m not interested in being my kids’ dictator. I want them to be free thinkers, capable of making choices because they’ve been given the opportunity to exercise decision making. As a parent it’s my job to make sure they’re educated outside of the school system and their hearts, minds, and reasoning skills are regularly educated and utilized ❤

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      3. Yes! So many times yes! What’s really cool about the ages my kids are now is that their reasoning skills are approaching adult levels, so we really can just talk things out.

        I don’t think that would be true, if I’d kept on the way I was going.

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      4. That’s such a testament to the commitment you have to your parenting dynamic. I want the opposite of the stereotypical relationship with my daughters when they reach their teenage years. So I’m parenting today in a way that I believe will foster the relationship I want with them as they get older. We’ll see if it works out but they are two wonderful little people I’d love to be around even if they weren’t mine 🙈

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      5. I know lots of teens who’ve been parented similarly, and they are bteathtaking! And the teen in this house? He’s a big, strapping, man-sized boy who still wants to spend time with me, and will even hug me in public!

        We were asked some time ago how we punish them – and I couldn’t even begin to think what I would punish them FOR…there’s really nothing. Annoyances that come from living together, almost always minor. They help more these days, although they don’t have chores; they think of ways to pitch in. They’ve kept our fire going all night as they hang out in the living room. They like each other, and us, and respect each other’s and our need for privacy.

        I would not trade this! I’m guessing, that when you get to this point, you won’t, either!

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      6. That’s so encouraging to hear! I love it! Mine are still young and at the age that punishment and discipline is expected by societal norms. My 8-year-old is at an age of reason and understanding. It’s very rare that she gets a formal punishment. It’s usually a heart to heart conversation that she can understand what’s expected of her, what she can do differently, how she can handle things in the future, her pointing out what she shouldn’t have done and why.My 2-year-old isn’t there yet and get a pop on the hand every now and then generally so she understands that “don’t touch” is serious and immediate. I look forward to our relationship growing and adapting with them and just smile when people tell me I’m in for it in their teenage years 😉

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      7. When I punished, I often forgot what I was punishing them FOR – so how were they supposed to understand, when they were too little to reason it out.

        These days, a firm expression of displeasure is enough for my daughter, almost 12 and a half. My son, 15, almost never does anything I’d even need to speak to him about, and that’s not an exaggeration at all. He’s extremely mature and thoughtful in a lot of ways, and he’s a generous, kind, and patient soul with a mellow personality.

        My daughter is more fiery and daring, and also dealing with some pretty heavy-duty hormones right now, so there are some minor conflicts and frictions, but, even when I point them out, I know that they’re mostly growing pains, and she’ll be out of this phase of her life in time.

        My son and I were talking about the idea of teenage rebellion yesterday. He couldn’t think of anything to rebel against, so we finally decided that he’s rebelling against rebellion! =D

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      8. I agree. Even as a kid I remember thinking how unfair my punishment was and mean my parents were. My 8 year old is much more effected by my disappointment than any punishment. We have a good amount of talks in our house to express our happiness as well as areas that we can improve upon. That’s too funny! I could deal with rebelling against rebellion 💖

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