Grateful Sunday|What Lies Beyond Fear

This week I’m grateful for the right words at the right time. I recently read a comment on a YouTube video that wasn’t intended for me but empowered me just the same. The commenter said that if someone has a positive and important message to spread, it doesn’t matter if they received a degree for it or not.

You see, I’m guilty of letting self-doubt rob me of my future. In the past I’ve let the negative thoughts of “not enough” overshadow the power of my message. You know, “you aren’t good enough, you aren’t smart enough, you aren’t trained enough”. In the past I allowed my fear of failure hold me back from even trying to succeed. Of course I’ve made attempts and succeeded but most of the time the odds of success were in my favor. Making an attempt when the odds of failure or the risk of failure was great, usually meant that I didn’t try that avenue.

When I read the words of that stranger’s YouTube comment written months earlier, they spoke straight to my heart and my current situation. Self-doubt was replaced with confidence and my vision became my mission. I no longer allow the thoughts of self-doubt or the doubtful words of others to become my truth. I remind myself that failure is part of process! I think back on those that have left their mark in human history and realize it’s because they didn’t let failure keep them down. They accepted it as part of the path to success and didn’t let it deter them. I remind myself that the world is in a place that it needs all of the kindness it can get. Nothing but good will come from me spreading a message of kindness and helping people become more attuned to the kindness around them, raise the level in their own life, and be a kindness ambassador by living a kinder life.

I don’t need to have a PhD in kindness to spread the message. My lifestyle will serve as my experience. I’ve had success in the past using my experience in lieu of academic training and it’s gotten me to where I am today. There’s nothing indicating that it will be any different moving forward. Besides,  doing my part to make a world a better place by living a kind gentle life and encouraging others to make that a priority is worth the risk of feeling inadequate. Instead of letting the fear of failure determine my future, I’m daring myself to push past the initial discomfort to experience what lies beyond.

Everyday Kindness
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This post was written prior to this week’s tragic events. This made me further realize the need for me to push past feeling uncomfortable and just spread the simple message that’s been laid on my heart to share. I avoided posting about the events until yesterday, I finally found the words that were trapped inside and I needed to share. If you missed it, you can find it here. If you’d like to join me to help spread kindness, click on the photo to the left.

Can you relate to anything in this post? When’s the last time someone said the right thing at the right time? What’s a mantra or affirmation you repeat to yourself when you need to move past self-doubt? What’s a recent success you’ve had by not letting your doubts squash your dreams? What are you grateful for this beautiful Sunday? I’d love to hear your thoughts, please feel free to share in the comments! 

17 Replies to “Grateful Sunday|What Lies Beyond Fear”

  1. I can relate to hearing the right words at the right time. Words that speak straight to your heart. This is such an empowering post Niki and I’m so glad you’ve embarked on and embraced your mission of kindness. You’re right, nothing but good can come of spreading kindness and messages of positivity. I have no doubt you will make a difference in the work you’re doing. Hugs and warmest wishes to you. xo

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    1. It’s such a pick me up to hear the right words when you need them most! I’m glad that you’ve experienced that, jotted them down in your beautiful journal no doubt 😉 Thank you for your words of encouragement Miriam, they’re greatly appreciated ❤

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  2. I’ve let the fear of failure and not being good enough stop me on more than one occasion. Although I’m determined not to let it happen again, it probably will. I completely agree that you don’t need a degree to spread a positive message. All you need is heart and the willingness to act. This is such a fantastic and uplifting post. Thank you for sharing, Niki. 🙂

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    1. I’m sure that by being aware of it you’ll be more determined to not let it hold you back. I’m not trying to avoid failure itself because I’ve learned it’s part of the process. I’m just not going to continue to let fear of failure or fear itself be in the driver’s seat of my decision making process 🙂 Wishing you lots of opportunities to explore what lies beyond fear ❤ Thank you for your words of support ❤

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      1. I think that’s where I’m at now-willing to fail and get back up. Right now, I’m letting love and hope take the driver’s seat. I have to say that it’s great. 🙂 I also think that having people in my life that feed my inspiration helps a lot. Since following you and another blogger by the name of Nikki, I find myself much more aware of the opportunities afforded me to spread kindness through simple acts. I love the message you bring to your blog. Wishing you a beautiful day, Niki. 🙂

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      2. That’s a great place to be Brenda! Love is a powerful driver! I’m so happy for you ❤ I'm so glad to hear that. I'm thankful that our paths have crossed and that you are more aware of opportunities to spread kindness. Thank you so much for thoughtful words. Have a great rest of your weekend!<3

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  3. Agree. Not only the supposed fear of failure that runs amok in my own mind, but the previous and real failtures in my life experiences. Dare I trod forward and fail again? I really did not want to, for fear of failing again. But the voice within would not quiet itself. When I adhered to that mucky water thoughts of fear, my spirit grew darker and darker, for I followed the safe path, or not path at all, for fear won.

    So the external environment visits me to speak to me, what my internal guide already knows. Go! Do what your inner spirit calls out to do! Do it despite the fear!

    And so I did! And then I did another step! And another! And the darkness slowly left, as a shining light began to shine upon my life. i started to feel better about myself and life all around me. My confidence was building up again, and new opporutnities and life was being trickled into my world.
    I still hear that voice of darkness, but it is now much softer. I do all I can to give it no power.

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    1. Thank you for sharing Diana! What excellent points you raise with your beautiful words! I can relate to your experience of letting the darkness consume you. What an amazing feeling the first time you turn on the candle and begin lighting one after the other with the courage to go forth in spite of the fear. With that light you gain a new perspective and light has an amazing way of boosting confidence. May we continue to keep the candle lit to light the ones along the path should darkness creep up ❤

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  4. Aha moments..a beautiful in sync combination between words and energies.
    I use love as a diffuser always..if I’m going a direction I don’t think is love I’ll talk only love to diffuse my mindset and possible reactions and then I write it in my sunshine project..light always trumps darkness.

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    1. That’s an amazing way to handle it! Like anything, it takes practice but that is a great way to put things into perspective and help to overcome fear based thoughts. thank you for sharing ❤

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  5. Bravo, Niki! There is no advanced degree in kindness, and sometimes the people with the greatest number of diplomas on their walls and letters behind their names are least able to forge a human connection or bring about meaningful, positive change in the world. As someone with a doctorate and a bunch of letters, I can tell you that they don’t erase the insecurity and the inner demon telling me on a nearly continual basis that I’m not good enough, smart enough, experienced enough, or adequate enough. Every day is another occasion when I must dance with this particular monster in my closet. Finishing my school and training was not what equipped me the most for being the person I want to be. It was all my therapy, and the guidance I received in acceptance, compassion, and mental, emotional, and spiritual resilience. That guidance came in all shapes and sizes, from all sorts of sources, including this amazing blogging community. Keep up your wonderful dedication to kindness! You are already bringing more light to the world.


  6. Thank you for sharing that Lulu. I often find myself wrestling with my “not enough” monster whenever I’m on the brink of doing something bigger than I’ve done before. It’s really encouraging to hear that while I may encounter some criticism or hurdles, the message I deliver overshadows titles and letters. I always enjoy talking with you. You’re so open, honest, intelligent and insightful. I’m so glad you’ve not only received but sought out the support that you have. Thank you so much for your encouragement. I’m no longer allowing my negative self talk to keep me down or hold me back. Though my message is simple, it’s also profound and needed. I wouldn’t want to look back and wish what could have been and realize that I stood in my own way.


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