Someone Needs To Hear This Today

I just had to share this video. It’s a little over an hour so I understand if you can’t watch the whole thing right now, but it will start exactly at the part that I want to share. At the very end she touches on something that’s so profound and I just feel like someone needs to hear today. The clip starts off with a definition of trust but winds up touching on tolerance, understanding and kindness. Press play so you can add to your life toolbox.

My favorite points of this clip:

  • The definition of trust
  • The way this definition of trust enables you to repair a category without compromising trust as a whole
  • The notion of understanding everyone is doing the best they can which helps you react from a place of empathy
  • Highlighting that tolerance isn’t a free pass and that putting boundaries in place creates a place of integrity and understanding for all involved

 


What was your favorite point of that part of the talk? Had you ever considered the various categories of trust? Do you generally think that people are doing the best they can? How do you think your day would go if you told yourself people are doing the best they can when you are in a situation you find yourself being judgemental? Did you enjoy this? Share your thoughts, I’d love to hear!

12 thoughts on “Someone Needs To Hear This Today

  1. Such a revelation! …I gotta watch the whole thing this evening when I get back home. These were life changing 15 minutes… I must have been the one that needed to hear this today. 😀

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  2. I love Brene Brown! Thank you for sharing this video. One of the things I need to remind myself of more often than I do is, “Compassionate people set boundaries.” I wholeheartedly agree that everyone is doing the best they can. An advisor once told me, “Always assume the best of people, and if you can’t give them the benefit of the doubt, then ask for clarification.” When I was in grad school, one of the oldest, wisest, most experienced faculty members gave an entire lecture on the topic of “everyone is doing the best he or she can at any given moment.” That person who won’t stop smoking, the abusive parent, the person who is nasty to you in the grocery store. It is a hard, hard concept to grasp and it is not always easy for me, but knowing just how limited I am and all the ways I’ve hurt others intentionally and unintentionally, having lived through being unable to pull myself out of my binge eating disorder and anorexia/orthorexia, helps me to feel empathy for people who are also struggling. We are all broken in one way or another. BUT, that does NOT make it ok for people to hurt each other or commit wrongs. That is where I really struggle. Knowing that someone is doing his or her best doesn’t lessen the pain and it doesn’t make it ok when that person does something cruel, unkind, or evil, and it is ok to feel that pain. I’m reading a really great book called “The Book of Forgiving” by Desmond Tutu that addresses this dichotomy. It’s helping me in my own healing. If you haven’t read it, I think you would really like it and find it useful in your life coaching.

    On an unrelated note, I just took up the three-day quote challenge, and I am nominating you to join me, if you would like. There’s no pressure to participate, but you can read about the challenge here: https://realadventuresofbecomingme.wordpress.com/2016/06/14/the-three-day-quote-challenge-day-two/

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    1. She’s awesome! That talk was so good! Yes, accepting everyone is doing the best they can is hard!!! It does make it easier for me to get through the day though. I don’t take things personally or dwell on them because looking at people that way makes me more empathetic. Very good advice he gave! How wonderful to have someone give that message 🙂 Thanks for the book suggestion, I’ll add it to my list to read.

      Thank you, I saw the previous two days posts. Thanks for thinking of me ❤ I'll get to it as soon as I can 🙂 Have a great day!

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  3. Last night at 1 am I was watching the whole interview, I’m so glad I did :D. I didn’t know “making up stories in your head about certain situations” was a thing :)). I thought I was the only one doing it and didn’t even consider the mechanism behind it. Refreshing!

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    1. That was an eye opener! If we all walk around making assumptions based on our stories in our head…That really gave me another perspective on the importance of communication 🙂 Glad you were able to watch the entire talk. 🙂

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  4. This is so transformative in its capacity to validate what I have been coming to terms with….it has propelled me much further down my path at an accelerated understanding…thank you for blessing me by sharing this 🙂

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