Sweetheart Saturday- Friendship Based Marriage

I came across this article while trying to find a topic for this week’s Sweetheart Saturday post. It brings a different meaning to marrying your best friend.

I consider my husband to be my best friend but we dated and became friends during that process. We met through mutual friends. We dated for a few months and within the first sixΒ months we decided to have a baby and get married (yes, in that order). I was almost six months pregnant when we got married. That was over 8 years ago and even though it seemed improbable to many, we’re still in it for the long haul! In the article it talks about two people who have been friends for years without dating getting married. I just thought it was interesting and worth the read.

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Do you consider your partner your best friend? Were you friends before you started dating? Did your friendship form while dating? Do you value the friendship factor in your relationship? Do you maintain your sense of independence (financial or otherwise) in the relationship like the article mentions? Share what you feel comfortable with!

39 thoughts on “Sweetheart Saturday- Friendship Based Marriage

      1. I know her through my brother, she is my family friend, we start communicating knowing that my brother is trying to make both of us to tie the knot, we share our interest, liking, dislikes…..we become a friend who shares anything under the sun….. then the right moment came for us to tie the knot……

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  1. We are not married, but we’re going on 8 years together soon and we live together. We were classmates in college and then very, very good friends, we used to study together and eat together. It was the best, that’s when I realised it’s what I want for the rest of my life, to be with someone who knows me, likes me, with whom I am comfortable, with whom I can laugh and share the same interests. Our visions didn’t necessarily match at first but we’ve come a long way. Besides our common financial expenses, we still keep our money separate, because we’ve got very different financial spendings, we’re not mixing. Each of us is free to spend the money how we please, as long as we make wise investments.

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    1. I always try to keep posts open to partners rather than spouses. That’s great that you have a balance with someone that works! Wishing you many more years of happiness, love and friendship πŸ™‚ ❀

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  2. My husband is definitely my best friend. I was a junior in high school and he was a junior in college when we met. That was 40 years ago, OMG…We have been married 37 years this August !!! Blessings ❀ this Memorial Day

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  3. Sharing this with my friend, along with the article you referenced. We just ended a two hour phone call about her upcoming marriage, at 57, to a friend, that falls far out of the typical romantic love & marriage theme that’s been instilled in us since birth. I told her that their relationship, be it friendship, love and marriage, is their own unique bond and doesn’t need to fit into any preconceived notions about what love and marriage is.

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    1. That’s right! The relationship is theirs, as long as it works for them that’s what matters. Talk about perfect timing! I hope she gets what she needs out of them, wishing her a lifetime of friendship, love and laughter! ❀

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  4. My husband is my best friend now. He wasn’t when we got married. We weren’t friends before we started dating. We got engaged after 6 weeks, married after 5 1/2 months. Now 5 years later he is most definitely the best friend I’ve ever had.

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  5. My husband, always known as Poor George, has been my very best friend since the fourth grade…….yep, I said fourth grade. We met at age ten, grew up together, went out separate ways for a four year period of time, met up for a walk in the park when he was released from the military and got married one week later. best decision I ever made.

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  6. I’m not married but we have been best friends since day one (which was 11.5 years ago) People always ask why we aren’t married… There’s a bunch of reasons 😜 anyway I think one of the things that keeps our relationship strong is that we actually “like” each other… I can’t think of someone more funny, more giving, more intelligent… More dedicated, more of so many great qualities. I’m fortunate to share my life with someone who I don’t feel needs to be anything but who he already is. We don’t technically share finances and never plan to. I personally think sharing finances isn’t the way to go, but for those it works for, I commend you! (Great post btw, it’s awesome to read all the commenters stories too!)

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    1. πŸ˜€ our stories are very similar. I feel encouraged to see someone else living this way and enjoying it. Sometimes, in certain settings, we might feel like β€œthe weirdos” because we didn’t get married or because we keep our money separate. πŸ™‚ Thanks for sharing!

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    2. Whatever works for you guys! I think society gets too caught up on the titles… usually my posts are about “partners” vs spouses, I know there are plenty of people in committed relationships without the ceremony and paper so I don’t want them to feel excluded. Since I linked to an article I wanted my post to be in line with it but I have the utmost respect for those that have the type of partnership you do. The money thing is interesting…we have shared finances but we don’t question each other’s spending choices. Bills are paid and we have both learned to make better money choices over the years and still strive to make better ones. I’m not sure what separate vs combined finances looks like for other couples…You are very fortunate, I think liking your partner can get lost along the way for some. Reminds me of a quote about love being a choice even when you don’t like them in a moment very much…That can also be true. Thanks for sharing your story. I generally don’t get a lot of responses on Sweetheart Saturday because topics can be really personal so I was pleasantly surprised to have comments this week πŸ™‚

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