A-Z Challenge- Confessions of a Former Brutally Honest Person

This is part of the A-Z Challenge posts. I originally intended to write a Haiku but it was just too short so I’ll write in my usual format using the same topic.

I used to pride myself on being brutally honest. I told myself that I had the guts to say things that others thought but were too afraid to say out loud. I boasted about it like it was something to be proud of. I am still honest, but my honesty comes from a different perspective. Instead of being brash, I’m more caring and cautious with my words. Instead of being quick to judge, I’m more observant and understanding. While it’s important to be honest and honesty is a great quality, there are definitely ways of going about it the right way.

When speaking the truth, even the hard and difficult truth, it should always come from a place of love. You want to contribute to building that person up, not tearing them down.

The next time you go to state your honest opinion, think about the words before they come out. Just because it’s true doesn’t mean it needs to be said, and if it does, where is the truth coming from? Is it coming from a place of kindness? Love? From the intention of helping someone be better or do better? Are you about to say it in a kind and gentle way? If not, maybe you should think twice. Because while you may consider yourself brutally honest, those around you might consider you just plain brutal.

I had a hard time finding a quote that would go with this post, so I made up my own.

This post is part of the A-Z challenge. For details on the challenge, click here.

Core post summing up what the challenge is about, why I signed up, and what my theme is.

Challenge Posts- you can find all of the posts here.

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33 Replies to “A-Z Challenge- Confessions of a Former Brutally Honest Person”

  1. So very true.Sometimes being brutaly honest to the people around us can make more harm, than good.Even if you have good intentions.On the other side,being brutaly honest to yourself is a part of growing as a person.Great post!

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    1. That’s another perspective, being honest with yourself. A lot of people mention being their own worst critic. I think it’s healthy and necessary to be honest with yourself, but I think you can be honest without being brutal. I’ve grown more as a person when I’m honest with myself in a gentle vs brutal way. That’s just my personal opinion though. Thanks for bringing that up!

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      1. That’s definitive a good point to think about.The thing is,with yourself you know,most of the times,how far you can go without doing harm.But,of course,it’s all more complicated ,than that! Thank YOU for this post.I have definitely a few things to go through this weekend !

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  2. When considering this very thing, I often remember the words of Thumper in the movie Bambi – “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothing at all.” My kids quote it back to me all the time. πŸ˜€
    Great post, Niki! πŸ˜€

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  3. I’d happily quote you on that, Niki! πŸ˜„
    I think you’ve made the right distinction there, as it’s not always right to be brutally honest with people. The honesty needs to come from a good place and I think that it needs to be obvious that that is the case. Great post, as usual ☺ Looking forward to next week’s posts.

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  4. Love the post as always. I think being honest is a good quality to have, you are right in practicing caution or at least being reflective in what you say. However, I think in return being honest with yourself when someone is being honest with you, is also very important. We sometimes don’t like what others say because it requires us to be honest with ourselves.

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    1. This is true, they key that I’ve found is in where the honesty is coming from (a place of love, wanting the best for that person, etc.) as well as my delivery. Personally I’ve had to work on the art of delivery because it’s hard to receive a message if I don’t deliver it the right way (kind, gentle, loving). Sometimes it can be hard to accept the honesty presented to you and sometimes you might not be ready to hear or face it. At first it might be like a hot potato dropped in your lap but as you set it on the table and let it cool, it settles and you have to open it up and eat it πŸ˜‰

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