This is part of the A-Z Challenge posts. I originally intended to write a Haiku but it was just too short so I’ll write in my usual format using the same topic.
I used to pride myself on being brutally honest. I told myself that I had the guts to say things that others thought but were too afraid to say out loud. I boasted about it like it was something to be proud of. I am still honest, but my honesty comes from a different perspective. Instead of being brash, I’m more caring and cautious with my words. Instead of being quick to judge, I’m more observant and understanding. While it’s important to be honest and honesty is a great quality, there are definitely ways of going about it the right way.
When speaking the truth, even the hard and difficult truth, it should always come from a place of love. You want to contribute to building that person up, not tearing them down.
The next time you go to state your honest opinion, think about the words before they come out. Just because it’s true doesn’t mean it needs to be said, and if it does, where is the truth coming from? Is it coming from a place of kindness? Love? From the intention of helping someone be better or do better? Are you about to say it in a kind and gentle way? If not, maybe you should think twice. Because while you may consider yourself brutally honest, those around you might consider you just plain brutal.