I know that relationships change over time. They grow, evolve, dynamics shift, routine sets in. I understand it can’t be all passion and chemistry. There has to be a foundation for the relationship to last in situations that passion and chemistry aren’t enough. That said, I can’t help but miss the dating period of our relationship. When it was fun and new and we’d try out new places and things. Go for walks, talk, and spend time together just the two of us. It’s easy to let the day to day take over once you’ve been together for a while. You get comfortable, you live together, wake up next to each other, come home to each other.
Being comfortable with each other is one thing but you don’t want to let it get to the point that you don’t make time for one another or that you take the other person’s company for granted. In order for any type of relationship to be successful you have to put work into it. Make time for one another (one on one). Don’t think of all of the reasons that you can’t, think of ways that you can. There’s a reason the relationship grows and moves beyond the infatuation phase. A long lasting relationship can’t thrive off of infatuation, chemistry and excitement alone (but it’s nice to have all of those components).
I’m going to try to help you come up with ways to remember what it was like when things were fresh, exciting and new in your relationship. When you couldn’t stop smiling when their name popped up on your phone. When it seemed like an eternity until the next time you saw them. Back to a time that the very thought of that person made you giddy. Maybe you are still in that phase, enjoy it because it is so much fun! We’ve been together going on 9 years and we still have a lot of fun together but one on one time isn’t as plentiful we’d like right now. So here’s a link to take it back to a time of butterflies in your stomach and silly grins on your face.
What are your thoughts on this post? Do you make it a point to have one on one time with your partner? How often? How long have you been together? What do you do to rekindle the fire in the relationship? Feel free to share your tips in the comments!