I have the tendency to take myself too seriously sometimes. I’ve gotten over myself in the past few months (I’ve been working on myself), but I still have a ways to go. One of the many things that I’m working on is balance. While there is a time and a place to be serious, set limits, discipline and all the other things that come along with being a parent, there is also a time to loosen up.
That’s one thing I have trouble with. I don’t know if it’s because I think that I won’t be taken seriously or if it’s because I’ve forgotten what it’s like to see life through the eyes of a child. The other day my daughter and I were walking home from school and her stories that led to other stories followed by a thousand questions sent my head spiraling. Normally I would have just asked her to give me five minutes of quiet to let my head catch up but I didn’t want to dampen her mood so I started being silly, just talking in funny voices and making light of her talkativeness and she realized she was bombarding me and cooled it for a bit.
I realized that I had avoided hurting her feelings, making her feel bad and was able to get her to tone it down without taking the excitement out of seeing me for the first time all day. She just grabbed my hand and swung it as we walked the rest of the way home and told me how much she loved me and added that I was the best mom in the world. Don’t worry I don’t let it get to my head, I understand she’s biased. It did make me realize that I used a tactic I should utilize more often and one that I learned from her. I love watching her and her sister together and even when her little sister does something she doesn’t like or appreciate she is very kind and tender about it. Instead of crying or throwing a tantrum, her one year old sister usually cracks up and gives her a kiss and moves on when she’s told “no” because her big sister is so incredibly sweet and silly about it she doesn’t care.
All this to say that parenting doesn’t always have to be good cop/bad cop. Take a moment to analyse how you normally handle situations and think if there is a better age appropriate way you can deal with the situation with some fun that can still yield the results you are looking for.
What are your thoughts on this week’s parenting topic? Are you silly enough with your young kids? Do you laugh enough? Do you let them see the fun side of you?